Have you ever really sat back and wondered why your still stuck in your role? You feel like that educator on video exploding on a student and losing their job afterward but of course don't. You read articles about another educators being arrested for an inappropriate relationship with a student and think this is why we have a bad rep now? To add insult to injury you are feeling drained and depleted physically and emotionally after a day at work, but know how to protect yourself as your think about transitioning out of education. If you set healthy boundaries for yourself you would be aligned to receive the career transition your seeking.

I am the prime example of someone who didn't set boundaries and couldn't get out of education. As a result I suffered a major depression from personally not having healthy boundaries in place. I was the administrator who never asked for help, and instead of letting others take care of their responsibilities, I ended up taking that off their plate because I wanted to perform at high levels. How can anyone receive something when they haven't done the work for themselves? But like you are doing I knew that the people I worked with wouldn’t do something to the level of care needed most. How can you expect to lead in a new role if you haven't let others take responsibility for themselves? So in 2021, I had completely lost myself to the job and ended up hospitalized because staying stuck and not being able to get out I developed intrusive thoughts of self-harm.

But during that transition back to finding myself, I learned and mastered something significant that I was never taught growing up. Even in schools, we don’t teach this ever-important concept to its fullest. And the drum roll, ladies and gentlemen, that concept is boundaries which is important in all works of life. It aligns you to the places and things you truly want.

I am going to provide you with some background information on boundaries that will help you align yourself to receive the career that is truly aligned to you. Boundaries started to become popular around the 1980s in the self-help industry and quickly gained the attention of clinicians and therapists. Personal boundaries can be thought of as limits we set with others, what we consider acceptable and unacceptable behavior towards us. Think about that for a second. Why would boundaries be vital for a new organization you work with?

One type of boundary that we do know is our physical boundaries with people and our personal space. We are taught the concept as a critical skill: people shouldn’t be in your space or touch you without your permission. So the question you should be asking yourself is, do I have emotionally, professionally, and personally, and do my boundaries lead me to peace of mind of ruin? Because if you don't no matter what position you go into you will get the same energy your getting now with a different face.

There are different types of boundaries. Being able to recognize them can not only help you transition but increase your likely hood of success. If you are the person who knows their fence and stays on the fence, you probably have rigid boundaries (boundaries that keep anyone from getting in) . What most people have especially educators is loose boundaries (boundaries that people can cross). So you can start to see that having either of these types of boundaries can either prevent you from transitioning or while your in those new positions but you in a place that will eventually get you fired.

Transitioning educators without strong defined healthy boundaries are like riding a rollercoaster without a seatbelt; you a destined to fall and hurt yourself ample time. Who is going to hire that type of person. Recruiters and hiring personnel will quickly sniff you out and prevent you from having the opportunity to even try with their establishment. Don’t despair, though; it is never too late to implement boundaries regardless of age and current conditions. You have given away your power, but the great news is that you can quickly get it back. The first thing is that you decide the game's rules and how the other characters will treat you in life.

You don’t have to be drained by people, your time, or your efforts. When you put these boundaries in place, you will see the world of difference in your lives and your professions. Even when you are applying you will be able to be more strategic because you have the energy to apply at the correct times. I want you to take a second and imagine a life where you are constantly feeling positive energy and flow in life. You operate so that people know how to treat you and them in a way that is enriching instead of invasive. You have limits on the amount of time you spend with particular individuals that allows for a peaceful partnership. You can have that life, and you deserve that life. I don’t want anyone to get to the point where they want to commit suicide because life seems to be too heavy with work, and it feels like hell you will never escape. But you aren’t stuck; you just haven’t formed appropriate boundaries.

The beauty of our coaching solutions is that unlike any other organization or career transition service, CreateMyStory focuses on building the whole individual no matter where you are in your transition process whether you are at the beginning trying to learn the transition process or have landed the career you want. We continue to work with you and adapt to your whole needs to make you the best individual that will reach the greatest heights not only in your careers but in your life so that you will be your best. So let's book a discovery call we will not only help you get into your dream career we will help you develop healthy boundaries for your new role that will provide you the ultimate satisfaction and life.